I tell you that I have a long way to go before I am—where one begins….
You are so young, so before all beginning, and I want to beg you, as much as I can, to be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.
Resolve to be always beginning—to be a beginner!
Reusing Rilke. His words always seem to resonate with me. Just can’t get enough of using his letters to a young poet. The last time I used his words concerning being patient with things unsolved in my heart was when I was mind blown by India and being overstimulated in Mumbai. A maximum city can do that. Who knew a broken heart would send his words tumbling down the rabbit hole on to the plaster that would bandage the cracks of the organ I didn’t guard.
I know it will take time to mourn and heal, and today is Day 1 even if it really isn’t. I bike to and from school these days to change my morning routine. Twenty more days to break an old habit and start a brand new one. Recovery is expensive and is a pain in the butt.
I am looking forward to my future self thanking me for doing this. That’s the next step. Right now, my present self is really sorry. Sorry to my cracked and beaten heart.
Anyway, two things made me smile today though, Bishop’s villanelle and a song Yason sent me “Since I Left You” by The Avalanches. Here they are and here goes…
Elizabeth Bishop, “One Art” from The Complete Poems 1926-1979. Copyright © 1979, 1983 by Alice Helen Methfessel. Reprinted with the permission of Farrar, Straus & Giroux, LLC.
Source: The Complete Poems 1926-1979 (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1983)
grateful slice: making a hard decision and sticking to it
Sonnets to Orpheus**
by Rainer Maria Rilke
Want the change. Be inspired by the flame
where everything shines as it disappears.
The artist, when sketching, loves nothing so much
as the curve of the body as it turns away.
What locks itself in sameness has congealed.
Is it safer to be gray and numb?
What turns hard becomes rigid
and is easily shattered.
Pour yourself like a fountain.
Flow into the knowledge that what you are seeking
finishes often at the start, and, with ending, begins.
Every happiness is the child of separation
it did not think it could survive. And Daphne, becoming a laurel,
dares you to become the wind.
Last year’s word evolved, as usual. From Focus, it turned to Surrender mid year. This made total sense in the grand scheme of things and in the end, I needed them both. Evolution is cool. I am all open for things changing into stuff way more awesome than what I could ever picture in my mind. This flexibility is timely too because I can bet a kidney that 2012 will bring many new places to visit, things to experience, big changes, a lot of learning and awesome adventures with amazing people. 🙂
So my 2012 Word for the Year is …
As much as I want to relish the peace and quiet Dec 31, 2011 has brought me, I can’t wait for extraordinary 2012 to roll in.
Wohoo! I am so excited I am about to spontaneously combust.
Happy New Year!
What’s your word for the year?
grateful slice: discovery and new beginnings
*wall art singapore subway
**[in In Praise of Mortality: Selections from Rainer Maria Rilke’s Duino Elegies and Sonnets to Orpheus, trans. and ed. by Anita Barrows and Joanna Macy, p. 117]
Two weeks ago, I got to eat this wonderful meal here, with my good friend, C. In a line, the future is so bright, I have to wear shades.
Thanks, G. For all the opportunities. Good friends who welcome us into their homes (with hardly a notice).
And this, a view of a booming city and many more breakfasts of champions.
grateful slice: good friends and the future
My mom is doing all right and her heart, well, it is as good as new. Win.
grateful slice: successful procedures
Just when I thought things couldn’t get any better — they do! First this. Litratula.com is back from its Argentinian sabbatical. Win.
And then this. Freshly pressed goodness!
And a thousand times over, thank you everyone for your wonderful comments, subscriptions and for well, passing by. Am totally stoked you guys did. I am very grateful for this today.
What a way to end another perfect day in Mumbai. Maximum times. Win! Stay tuned! 🙂
grateful slice: Wordpress, being freshly pressed, Litratula and perfect days
Death is weird. Inevitable, but also weird. I think this because it’s so damn random. Cancer seems to be just as random and aggressive these days too. Wth.
My oldest cousin (on my dad’s side), Kuya Bong, died today. He was 47 years old. After watching his 13 year-old son, RJ, die of cancer not too long ago, and then the more recent months of him fighting his own cancer and complications, he passed away peacefully in Sloan Memorial Kettering Hospital. He was surrounded by family and loved ones. I am thinking about Ate Malou, Simon and Daryll right now as well. Even if they have shown nothing but unconditional love and unrelenting strength, my heart goes out to them.
Anyway, this one is for you, Kuya Bong. Your kindness, laughter, and generosity will be missed. God speed. Say hi to G, RJ, Inay and Tito B for me.
grateful slice: release from the pain of illness
2010 did not disappoint. It was truly a stellar year filled with love, hope, truth, friendship, laughter, humble pie and lessons learned. I wish I could write down every single thing/moment I am grateful for but I managed to join the bandwagon with the play on the top ten grateful slices for 2010. And here they are:
1. My daily walk with G. Without it, nothing else past number one would be possible. So thanks for everything, G.
2. My spiritual family — for their support and guidance (includes S and G’s small group; the ladies from St. Lukes; Victory Fort community; S; my co-teachers from Beacon, Training for Victory classmates, my sis)
3. Family and the opportunity to make peace with mom (she forgave me, just like that.)
4. My sister’s beautiful Manhattan wedding
5. My winner, gold medalist friends (the girlz, the gayz, new friendz, and time&tested friendz too) You know who you are. Thanks so much for making 2010 truly wonderful. 🙂 Win. Will have posts on odes to these wonderful peeps very soon. Stay tuned. #postaweek2011
6. Traveling and all the people I get to go with and/or meet along the way
….around the Philippines (Sagada, Caliraya, Laiya, Tali, Quezon, Dumaguete)
…And of course, traveling to conduct IBO workshops (Adelaide and KL). I’ve been pretty lucky. Next year, India. 🙂 Twice. Thank you, G. I am humbled by these opportunities.
7. Buying my Nikon D90 and taking Basic Photography lessons at the Federation of Philippine Photographers Foundation. Two of the best decisions in 2010.
8. The kids in my life and getting to spend time with them: Sabine, Mateo and Basti, My 8PG homeroom and Rune and Gray (Lapster’s kids)
9. Passing the Licensure Exam for Teachers. This just told me that I am on the right track in terms of listening to His will. Win!
10. Rediscovering writing and being open to falling in love again: one led to the other, now they bleed into each other.
I am going to cheat a little and say that there’s really so much more to be grateful for. There’s being in New York City twice in one year, being in New York City taking pictures with my brother, actually, being in NYC with my whole family; MM’s and Lapid’s valuable mudakis/brotherly advice one fine day (after PTCs), yoga (and yoga with friends), running (and running with friends), grand gestures (decisive admirers and airplanes), kinilaw, anchovies, skype (being able to talk to Lauren or Itsy anytime and S almost every week even if she is already in Mumbai), girlfriends who listen and keep us real, films, Pixar, Starbucks Drive thru, blogging, twitter, MUJI, the IBO Middle Years Program, writing to special people in the other side of the world … gosh, the list goes on and on and on … I guess the point is, is to take a moment to take it all in. Inhale. Exhale. My heart is overflowing right now. Goodie, next year, it can be 11 awesome things for 2011. Win.
What are your ten grateful slices for 2010?
grateful slice: being grateful